Don’t be puffed up but be filled up.
Sinful pride is an enemy. We often embrace pride to sooth our dark souls by puffing up our ego with unhealthy thoughts. Humility is a doorway to great joy in life. Timothy Keller in his book The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness (pg. 31-36) leads us to a new way of thinking as he explains true humility. Enjoy:
C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity makes a brilliant observation about gospel-humility at the very end of his chapter on pride. If we were to meet a truly humble person, Lewis says, we would never come away from meeting them thinking they were humble. They would not be always telling us they were a nobody (because a person who keeps saying they are a nobody is actually a self-obsessed person). The thing we would remember from meeting a truly gospel-humble person is how much they seemed to be totally interested in us. Because the essence of gospel- humility is not thinking more of myself or thinking less of myself, it is thinking of myself less.
Gospel-humility is not needing to think about myself. Not needing to connect things with myself. It is an end to thoughts such as, ‘I’m in this room with these people, does that make me look good? Do I want to be here?’ True gospel-humility means I stop connecting every experience, every conversation, with myself. In fact, I stop thinking about myself. The freedom of self-forgetfulness. The blessed rest that only self-forgetfulness brings.
True gospel-humility means an ego that is not puffed up but filled up. This is totally unique. Are we talking about high self-esteem? No. So, is it low self-esteem? Certainly not. It is not about self esteem. Paul simply refuses to play that game. He says “I don’t care about your opinion but, I don’t care that much about my opinion” – and that is the secret.
A truly gospel-humble person is not a self-hating person or self loving person, but a gospel- humble person. The truly gospel humble person is a self-forgetful person whose ego is just like his or her toes. It just works. It does not draw attention to itself. The toes just work; the ego just works. Neither draws attention to itself.
Here is one little test. The self-forgetful person would never be hurt particularly badly by criticism. It would not devastate them, it would not keep them up late, it would not bother them. Why? Because a person who is devastated by criticism is putting too much value on what other people think, on other people’s opinions. The world tells the person who is thin-skinned and devastated by criticism to deal with it by saying, ‘who cares what they think? I know what I think. Who cares what the rabble thinks? It doesn’t bother me.’ People are either devastated by criticism – or they are not devastated by criticism because they do not listen to it. They will not listen to it or learn from it because they do not care about it. They know who they are and what they think. In other words, our only solution to low self-esteem is pride. But that is no solution. Both low self-esteem and pride are horrible nuisances to our own future and to everyone around us.
The person who is self-forgetful is the complete opposite. When someone whose ego is not puffed up but filled up gets criticism, it does not devastate them. They listen to it and see it as an opportunity to changed. Sounds idealistic? The more we get to understand the gospel, the more we want to change. Friends, wouldn’t you want to be a person who does not need honour – nor is afraid of it? Someone who does not lust for recognition – nor, on the other hand is frightened to death of it? Don’t you want to be the kind of person who, when they see themselves in a mirror or reflected in a shop window, does not admire what they see but does not cringe either? Wouldn’t you like to be the type of person who, in their imaginary life, does not sit around fantasizing about hitting self-esteem home-runs, daydreaming about successes that gives them the edge over others? Or perhaps you tend to beat yourself up and to be tormented by regrets. Wouldn’t you like to be free of them? Wouldn’t you like to be the skater who wins the silver, and yet is thrilled about those three triple jumps that the gold medal winner did? To love it the way you love a sunrise? Just to love the fact that it was done? For it not to matter whether it was their success or your success. Not to care if they did it or you did it. You are as happy that they did it as if you had done it yourself – because you are just so happy to see it.
You will probably say that you do not know anybody like that. But this is the possibility for you and me if we keep on going where Paul is going. I can start to enjoy things that are not about me. My work is not about me, my skating is not about me, my romance is not about me, my dating is not about me. I can actually enjoy things for what they are. They are not just for my resume. They are not just to look good on my college or job application. They are not just a way of filling up the emptiness. Wouldn’t you want that? This is off our map. This is gospel-humility, blessed self-forgetfulness. Not thinking more of myself as in modern cultures, or less of myself as in traditional cultures… Simply thinking of myself less.
Don’t be puffed up but be filled up.
This Valentines Day, people are looking for love in lots of different places, including the Bible.
“Love” was the most popular keyword search at Bible Gateway in 2018, as it has been in previous years.
Many of the most popular verses of the year also deal with the subject. Appropriately enough with the date of Valentines Day, 14 of the top 100 Bible Gateway verses focus on love.
Here are each of the verses with their overall popularity ranking in 2018.
1. JOHN 3:16 (1)
For God loved the world in this way: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.
2. ROMANS 8:28 (4)
We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.
3. PSALM 23:6 (7)
Only goodness and faithful love will pursue me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord as long as I live.
4. 2 TIMOTHY 1:7 (19)
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and sound judgment.
5. GALATIANS 5:22 (24)
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness …
6. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:4 (28)
Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant …
7. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:6 (37)
Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth.
8. ROMANS 5:8 (41)
But God proves his own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
9. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:8 (50)
Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end.
10. GALATIANS 2:20 (60)
I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
11. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:13 (61)
Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love—but the greatest of these is love.
12. JOHN 15:13 (84)
No one has greater love than this: to lay down his life for his friends.
13. PSALM 91:14 (86)
“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.”
14. ROMANS 8:39 (98)
… nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
What is your favorite Bible verse on love?
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